Dying to Our Dreams

Written By Amy Beth Williams

Have you ever felt like you were in the dying process of your dreams of career, relationships or some other heart’s desire? Is it an unfamiliar and painful place of ambivalence or seeming detachment? What once captivated our hearts is no longer in the forefront but more in the peripheral. There is something freeing about that place but at the same time a bit unfamiliar and eerie. I was reading this morning in Oswald chambers “Utmost For His Highest” and it really struck me. He talks about that very thing as related to sanctification.

“Sanctification requires our coming to the place of death, but many of us spend so much time there that we become morbid. There is always a tremendous battle before sanctification is realized— something within us pushing with resentment against the demands of Christ…

In the process of sanctification, the Spirit of God will strip me down until there is nothing left but myself, and that is the place of death. Am I willing to be myself and nothing more? Am I willing to have no friends, no father, no brother, and no self-interest— simply to be ready for death? That is the condition required for sanctification….

Am I willing to reduce myself down to simply “me”? Am I determined enough to strip myself of all that my friends think of me, and all that I think of myself? Am I willing and determined to hand over my simple naked self to God? Once I am, He will immediately sanctify me completely, and my life will be free from being determined and persistent toward anything except God….(Sanctification) means being made one with Jesus. Sanctification is not something Jesus puts in me.” Oswald Chambers.

Another source defines sanctification as “the state of proper functioning.” To sanctify someone or something is to set that person or thing apart for the use intended by its designer. A pen is “sanctified” when used to write. Eyeglasses are “sanctified” when used to improve sight. In the theological sense, things are sanctified when they are used for the purpose God intends. A human being is sanctified, therefore, when he or she lives according to God’s design and purpose.”

I suddenly felt honored to be a part of God’s bigger plan. Knowing that He has a larger purpose for me –
for us. The death of our dreams is sometimes a necessary process in order that He may sanctify our hearts. For that to happen, we must let go of everything we are clutching tightly onto other than God and trust Him with the outcome.

What are you grasping in your hand today? Surrender it to God and trust the designer to establish your life purpose. He will work out in you what He has predestined in you before you were born- and it may just be a resurrection of the very desires and dreams He asked you to die to.

This is the will of God, your sanctification… —1 Thessalonians 4:3

It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption. 1 Corinthians 1:30

Life Under Construction

By: Amy Beth Williams

Life under construction:  Experiencing life’s delays, detours and ditches.

For the past several months, I have had the unpleasant experience of road construction right outside my apartment building. Between the jackhammers, bulldozers and orange cones, I am ready for it to be over!

As much as an annoyance this entire project is to me, I have come to realize that my life isn’t much different. God oftentimes has us “under construction” in whatever area He sees fit. First there are the detours. You know, those times when your plan A turned into plan B, turned into Plan Y? It’s when we think we know best and God proves otherwise (and by the way, He is always right). Detours are often necessary for God to test our hearts, grow our faith and to remind us to surrender control and leave the driving to God. We can’t get to our desired destination without His wisdom and guidance.

Secondly, there are the delays. Just when you think the destination is right around the corner, another two months pass, then a year and before you know it, you start to believe God has forgotten you. Waiting is HARD. There is nothing more difficult than waiting on a promise from God without any outward encouragement. The temptation is to take a shortcut but we learned from Abraham and Sarah that it’s better to wait on God than to create a proverbial Ishmael.  Trust His timing. He knows best!

And then there are the ditches. Those places in life where we get stuck and there seems to be no way out. No matter what we do or how hard we try, we feel shipwrecked. I know from my own life, there are many times when the very pit I prayed my way out of was the very place that God was preparing me for the blessing. Just like Joseph, we need to trust that God is in our seemingly helpless situations and is just waiting for us to surrender control so that His glory can be displayed in our lives. There is a purpose even in the ditches of life.

There are few other things about construction I have noticed:

1. It never seems to have an end.

2. Eventually, it does end.

3.  It’s always for a purpose, even when we can’t see it at the time.

We have to remember even when, especially when, God is working on us. Let Him have His way – He knows how to get you to the other side safely. Remember: the orange cones are only temporary!

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding. In all of your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.” Proverbs 3:5

Learning to Be Happy For Others

by Julie Luca

“Oh, I am so happy for you.” Have you ever said this and almost sarcastically mumbled these next words under your breath?  “No, that’s great, really.”

Do you sometimes find yourself frustrated by your own stagnant path to breakthrough and while you wait, about nine people you know have great tales of breakthrough in their own lives? It’s hard isn’t?  You were happy for the first two, and then the third and fourth person called you and made you feel now inadequate and depressed.  By the time you scroll down to the eighth and ninth person, you realize they were the first two who suddenly got an even bigger breakthrough. Oh, now you are really excited for them, right?

You should be!  Because you want your own special breakthrough on God’s perfect timing.  Don’t settle for anything less!  Because then it’s not the best!

I have a friend who is exactly what you think of when you think of a mom. She bakes the best desserts, she sews her children’s costumes, she is extremely creative, and she even has a soft motherly voice. Her dream is to own a bed & breakfast and she fits the description to a tee!  She is a kind and friendly person that would make everyone feel welcome into her home. I love that about her, and although I would love to take lessons from her for all the above, I treasure her unique qualities God has given her. I don’t envy them.

It is the same for all my dearest friends who are also authors or screenwriters, I rejoice when good things happen to them. I want them to succeed. I love to learn from their experiences and being excited for their successes is part of it. When Amy won first place in the Karios Movie Guide Awards, you would have thought I won it. I was so extremely happy for her! I know how hard she worked and all the frustration she went through to get to that moment. I was so proud of her and still am! It is always exciting to be a part of something so wonderful.

We should not compare ourselves to others, but remember that are gifts and talents are unique, our situation is unique, and our DNA is unique! God has something planned especially for you!  Made perfectly for you!

It’s okay to be happy for others, really it is! There is a place for all of us to succeed! And if your not your friends’ biggest fan, then who are you? (I would say not really a friend.) Let’s be excited for others, because hey, guess whose turn is next? Yours! And wouldn’t it be great to have that friend as your biggest supporter and fan now?

Galatians 5:26 Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

A Lesson from the Bamboo Tree

By Amy Beth Williams

I was just talking to a friend about how the ordinary days of seeing absolutely nothing are so much more common than the truly “seeing God at work” days. The challenge is to hold on when nothing outwardly changes, knowing that he is working behind the scenes and for us to still rejoice despite what we see – or don’t see. So here’s a mini sermon after doing a little research on how bamboo trees and how we can relate spiritually…

In the first 4years after a bamboo is planted, nothing can be seen but a small blade. It would be easy and logical to assume that every day that passes, nothing is happening and it’s pointless to believe it will. But EVERYTHING IS HAPPENING! What we don’t see is that all the growth is taking place underground building miles of an intricate root system that is so complex and sophisticated that it will support and sustain the massive growth that is predestined for the plant. If you try to pull the tiny blade out of the ground, it’s impossible because the roots grow so deep and they become incredibly strong that it won’t budge. After the root system is complete, the tree can grow up to 90 feet in a year! This compared to other fast growing trees that only reach 2.5 feet per year.

In another article about bamboo trees, I read “You CANNOT shortcut the amount of time it takes a species to establish it’s rhizome (root) system” as it will destroy the sustainability of the plant. How often I want to shortcut the waiting, not realizing that I am destroying the foundation of His blessing. It’s amazing how similarly God works in our own lives. As long as we can stand in a place of belief that God is working and growing us below ground and our only job is to water it, nurture it and not grow discouraged or lose heart when we see nothing change. In that place, we can look above ground at that little tiny sprout and still know it holds everything God promised and no one can yank it out of the ground. Let us not grow weary in waiting but let us thank God for establishing a root system that will uphold His great calling in our lives.

“God is not slow in keeping His promises as some understand slowness.” 2 Peter 3:9

“Unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.” John 12:24

Pearls of Wisdom

By Amy Beth Williams

I was struck by an Oscar winning screenwriter who said whenever he was in a  dry season, he always envied his accountant brother who had a very steady and balanced life. His world was predictable and safe; the complete opposite of this writer. But he said the mountaintops were so worth the valleys and when at the top of the mountain the valleys seem insignificant and life as an accountant for him would’ve been a world of monotony. Of course his words resonated with me, not just because I am a screenwriter who sees more delays than breakthroughs, but because he is describing the life we all live.

I was asked to share my life story recently and as I scanned my mind for the highlights  of  my life, they were always connected to the lowlights. In other words, the biggest and best things that God did  in my life were  usually on the heels of a steep valley filled with fear, uncertainty and trepedation – because I didn’t know the ending. But now, looking back, I realized that without the valleys, there would be no mountains. And for that reason, I am willing to go to the valleys.

As a writer,  a story is compelling only when there is conflict. if you think about some of your favorite movie characters, you will find their journey is filled with a great deal of conflict to overcome. As much as I love writing in conflict, I hate it in my own life.  In fact, if I had it my way, there would be no conflict, but we live in an imperfect  world with imperfect people so we should expect nothing less. But I say all that to say that conflict draws out character. As a writer, I know the ending and I know what needs to happen to the character in order for him or her to have a believable, redeemable story arc. People change and are formed in and through conflict. Not just on a page but in our lives.

I also heard the question posed recently, who has made the biggest difference in your life. The person on the other end of the question said sometimes it’s the people in our lives who have caused us the most upheaval and annoyance because it’s the sand in the oyster that creates the pearl.

“Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do  not give up.” Galatians 6:9

Bravery + Passion = Perseverance

by Julie Lucia

I live in a school district that has amazing parents who care about our students, teachers and the future of education. One mother in particular had been advocating for years. Her solitary voice and her “advocating” yard sign sat alone throughout the neighborhood and yet she never once gave up the fight. I not only admire her, I am in awe of her persevering spirit throughout it all. Alone her voice has been a beacon to inspire others and the result has been astounding!

Her efforts remind me of when I saw an episode of “Whale Wars.” I watched the brave Peter Hammarstedt, (Captain Watson was not there at the time) man his vessel, Sea Shepherd – his goal – to keep a mammoth tanker from refueling a whaling ship. He didn’t care how small his own ship was, his passion was mightier than this gargantuan tanker and the threat it could cause him and his crew.  “I will not move. You will have to sink me. I will not let you refuel. I repeat, I will not move,” Peter announced over the radio.

Wow! He said it with such conviction! It looked as if they were going to be smashed to pieces into the whaling ship as the waves threatened to over take the Sea Shepherd.  The Captain was putting his crews’ lives at risk and yet he still refused to back down.  And the result – the tanker left and they saved countless number of whales that day!  It was a victory for Sea Shepherd! It was unbelievably awe inspiring!

Standing brave like David against Goliath or Moses against Pharaoh, where does that determination come from? Why can’t we all have that much passion and find that inner strength to never give up on our dreams, our goals, and God’s promises in spite of naysayers – even when we are alone in the fight.

We need to be our own captain of our emotions and take a stand against those negative feelings and words that play out in our mind trying to convince us things will never get better and our circumstances will never change. Be bold and insist that you will not be moved, even if you have to declare it out loud. “You can try to sink me (wind and rain – a.k.a. circumstances) but I will not be moved.”

2 Samuel 10:12 – Be strong, and let us fight bravely for our people and the cities of our God. The Lord will do what is good in his sight.

Revelation 2:19 – I know your deeds, your love and faith, your service and perseverance, and that you are now doing more than you did at first.

4 Emotional Triggers

By Amy Williams

If you’re anything like me, you have moments out of nowhere that your emotional balance feels well, out of balance. In a matter of minutes it could go from a moment of victory to an unexpected place of impatience and irritation. Oftentimes for me it can be triggered by a traffic jam or a rude person at the checkout line.  Although our emotions are a significant part of us, they don’t always represent the truth about or situation but they are more a litmus test to understand the root of our feelings. One of the most useful acronyms I have heard several times to remember when you are discouraged is H.A.L.T. Each letter represents an emotional trigger and are a warning sign to stop and address them.

1. Hunger. If you haven’t taken the time to eat and expect to feel emotional stable well, then you’re dreaming! Our bodies need healthy nutrition and though it may seem like an obvious task, I know so many people who realize at dinner time that they haven’t eaten all day. No wonder they are so unpleasant to be around!

2. Anger. This is a big one. If not handled and dealt with our attitudes and personalities are severely affected. Jesus teaches us to be willing to forgive others as He has forgiven us and any pent up anger left with is destined to eat us away like a cancer. We are called to forgive even when the other person isn’t sorry because it only destroy us as it turns into a deep root of anger and bitterness.

3. Lonely. So many people, including myself, dread feeling lonely and constantly keep busy to avoid this painful emotion. We must remember that we when are by ourselves that we are never alone. He is with us every second of the day and when I am tempted to avoid my loneliness instead of address it, I ask the Lord to remind me of His great love and that He is enough. No person, thing, achievement or dream can ever stack up to the overflowing and satisfying love that only He can give.

4. Tired. So many of us push ourselves so far past our healthy limits that it’s no wonder we are tired! When we are intentional about taking time to not only sleep but to rest, it’s amazing how quickly our current situation can turn from a mountain to a mole hill. Rest, I am learning, is crucial to mental clarity and necessary component of a productive life although sometimes it seems counter-intuitive to efficiency fanatics like myself.

Although these triggers are fairly universal, there are many others to list and everyone is different in what affects them the most. It’s important to identify them when our spirits are frazzled and to not just pray for emotional realignment, but to also take the practical steps including rest, fellowship, forgiveness and good nutrition. Once we can learn to manage our emotions in a healthy way, our days will feel less like the crashing of relentless waves and more like a tranquil sea. I don’t know about you but I am ready for some calm in my life!

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22

“Knock, Knock.” “Who’s There?”

by Julie Lucia

Today was a snow day for the kids. What should have been a delight for all, there was one who viewed it differently and had a bucket full of tears to prove it. “We won’t have a Valentine’s party now!”  She cried as she tried stifling her sobs into my side.

As I began to console my heartbroken nine-year-old, I realized how there are so many times in our lives that things just don’t seem to work out the way we wanted or planned. Disappointment becomes an old friend constantly knocking on our door.  “Hey, you remember me? Forgot I was hanging around did you? Can you open the door so I can introduce you to Despair and Frustration?”

Oh, how I hear that familiar voice and not only want to open the door to him, I usually ask him to also invite his friend, Self-pity. Because I heard he likes to have special parties just for me!

Before you touch that door knob, I suggest stepping away quietly and approach another door where Hope and Trust are waiting patiently. They are also saying, “Hey, remember me?” But they add, “It’s worked out for you before, why should you believe it won’t now? There is a better plan for you, a better way. Do not focus on what did not happen, but trust that your prayers have been heard and you have not been forgotten.” We know that “His ways our not our ways” and in most cases…that’s a good thing.

I notice when I do this, I find more to be thankful for and more reasons to smile. The bottom line – God is good. If we could just remember this when disappointment clouds are view, we can began to see our situation the way God sees it. Not hopeless, not impossible, but a future filled with endless possibilities!

 Isaiah 55:8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither our your ways my ways,” declares the Lord.

10 Steps to Being Neurotic & Worrisome

By Julie Lucia

If you are like me, I love to learn new ways of making my life easier, my home more organized, my waistline a little smaller, a better mom, a better wife, and whatever else that can be jammed in a ten- step process.  Seven or five steps would be even better, who has time anymore for ten steps?

And so why do we get frustrated when waiting on God for direction? We just want to say, “A simple 5-step process would be fantastic. Thanks God!” It seems we end up doing a 20-step stumbling dance routine that looks like anything but a sophisticated tango or an easy task. The process might go something like this:

1. Ask God for direction and trust him for the answer.
2. Pray that not only it is for good, but it looks good too! (It needs to be easy to identify, of course.)
3. Read the bible hoping to find some miraculous verse that actually says, “Hey, I am talking to you! This is exactly what you need to do.”
4. Try to wait patiently and then easily thrust into a whirlwind of doubts the closer a decision needs to be made and nothing has happened.
5. A door is closed that looked pretty great and then someone says something negative about your future outlook.  “Did they just curse me?”  You wonder.  “Oh, no, what if that person is right and it is going to end up like that?”
6. Run back to your faith and remind yourself about God’s goodness.
7. Still waiting and wondering what is going to happen, you begin to ask around how it worked out for everyone else in your predicament and then worry again.
8. Run back to God for a refresher course on prayer and read up on all of those before who had waited on God for direction.
9. Question and question and question God. “What if I get my hopes up and they are dashed again?  Can I even dare to dream?  How can I be so far away from what God wants for me as I am doing something completely opposite of what I am asking for?”
10. Run to God and trust him for the answer.

And there you have it, 10-steps to being neurotic and worrisome.  It is the one simple step that we tend to complicate – Ask God for direction and trust him with the answer.

Psalm 27:14: Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

Depend On God

by Amy Beth Williams

I was thinking recently how often time our prayer requests are actually prayers that would lead to independence of God instead of dependence on God, whether it be financial increase, a new home, a new job, health, finding the perfect mate, etc. Although all of these things are good things, at the root of most of our desires is to find a sense of security outside of God. When they are rooted in our self-sufficient efforts, they are actually in direct opposition to God’s desire for us. He calls us to be dependent on Him for all of our needs.

To quote AW Tozer, “Many of us Christians have become extremely skillful in arranging our lives so as to admit the truth of Christianity without being embarrassed by its implications. We arrange things so that we can get on well enough without divine aid, while at the same time ostensibly seeking it. We boast in the Lord, but watch carefully that we never get caught depending on Him.” Ouch. I don’t know about you but those words strike a chord with me. In our society, self-sufficiency and independence are heroic qualities. As s single woman living in LA and working in the industry, anything less than the highest level of self-sufficiency and capability will land you in the unemployment line. I have grown so accustomed over the years to making all my life decisions without a life partner so the root of self-sufficiency goes deep for me. It has taken awhile to unlearn my independence and depend completely on God, trusting that He can hold all of my weight.

As much as there is a societal applause of self-sufficiency, the opposite is sadly true Being defined as a “dependent” person often is associated with weakness, inability, and lack of resourcefulness. But anything less than dependence on God is what Tozer called pseudo faith. He writes:
“Pseudo faith always arranges a way out to serve in case God fails. Real faith knows only one way and gladly allows itself to be stripped of any second way or makeshift substitutes. For true faith, it is either God or total collapse. And not since Adam first stood up on earth has God failed a single man or woman who trusted Him.”

I am certainly a work in progress when it comes to being stripped away from all of my makeshift crutches. It’s sometimes scary to have to depend on anyone other than yourself who may not have your best interest in mind. But I can assure you of this: God promises that He has our best interest and loves us so deeply and profoundly that we have not even one reason not to trust Him with our past, present and future. Instead of falling to the lies of society, let us fall into the arms of the one whose yoke is easy and His burden light.

John 15:4

^“Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.”